Father’s Day – Komali & RJ


Photo by Fola Abatan

K: How did you feel when mum told you she was pregnant?

RJ: I was wowed and overwhelmed,  but I was petrified. I kind of had this plan of how I wanted my life to roll out and it wasn’t in line with that at that point so I felt a bit unprepared.

K: Did you always want kids?

RJ: Yeah definitely, but in my head it was like ‘when I get this, when I have that then I’ll have kids’, so when it did happen it was like oh shit, I’m not ready!

K: Do you think you can ever be ready for kids

RJ: Yeah, i think you can be but I definitely wasn’t!

K: How did you feel when i was born?

RJ: I was amazed, I felt like a god, I felt elevated, my chest was way out! I remember thinking  I have to do this parent thing so good. I wanted you to have the best. I was proper impressed with your mum and myself. You came out perfect.

K: No I didn’t! I was so ugly when i was born! *laughs*

RJ: *laughs* No you were perfect and it was the best I ever felt, ever! Until your brother was born.


K: What was I like as a baby?

RJ: You were cool, you never cried much just for food and if you needed changing really. You were always smiling, always cuddly and you were always with me. I knew I could do everything with you and I took you everywhere. Some places it wasn’t ideal but you were too cute for them to say anything about it. You were a very social little being with most people, not everyone *laughs* You were always quite independent, I could leave you to your own devices and come back and there wouldn’t be toast inside the video player or anything. You were futuristic, you were walking at 8 months!

Photo by Fola Abatan

K: Am I pretty much the same person now?

RJ: Yeah but better, stronger, more defined.  Even down to your job, people look at me and your mum and go yeah that’s a no brainer. You’re more than equipped to do it, especially the influences from both your grandmothers. You’re good at bringing people together and you have a social theme about you.

K: Who am I more similar to you or mum?

RJ: Hard to say but probably 60/40 split to your mum. Your mum’s really social and swift and adept…

K: You’re really social though dad! Even when we were shooting this, you saw a million people! I didn’t even realise you’d stop to talk! I was laughing thinking this is my childhood. You and mum are the same It’s funny because so many of my friends now say the same thing about me.

RJ: The funny thing is my mum used to do the same thing. I used to say give me the key I’m going home!

K: Obviously the reason we wanted to do this shoot is because me and Megz feel that we get our sense of style from our dads. You’ve taught me so much about clothes and shoes and you’re definitely to blame for my ridiculously big shoe collection. How did you like to dress me when I was little?

RJ: We used to like putting you in cute little dresses and get a fab hair did from your Auntie Dee. You were always a mini-me & mum…co-ordinated combos, fly kicks – shell toes, camouflage tops and jackets.


K: I remember those salopettes that you used to make me wear with those duck boots (which I hated) but when I look back they were so wavy.

RJ: Another good one was the Pocahontas outfit you had, your mum sewed on sequins that were the same as the leaves in the cartoon, just to make sure yours was the best even if someone else came in the same outfit.

K: Mum’s so extra but what a legend, Pocohantas is my idol.


K: What’s the funniest thing I did when I was a kid?

RJ: It wasn’t funny at the time but probably when you cut your 2 front plaits off! You also wanted to have equal rights in your doll collection because you insisted on cutting off one’s hair and made her a tomboy. Your grandma also said she used to pick you up from nursery and she’d have to drag you away because you were tying all the other kids shoelaces and fixing them up as if you were their mother.

Komali with her 2 front plaits cut off

K: What are the most important things you wanted to teach me?

RJ: I wanted to teach you to have love, self-respect and honour so you’d know what to deserve. I always wanted to be around you so I could show you that no-one can take liberties with you. I also wanted you to be strong in yourself and follow your own mind.

K: What do you think I’ll be like as a parent?

RJ: I think you’ll be an excellent mum because you’ve got a strong sense of wrong and right.  I reckon you’ll have 3 or 4 kids and I bet they’ll do great things in the world. Any of your kids would be happy to have you as a mum.

K: Aww thanks dad! What did you think when I told you Meghan and I were starting King’s Ransom?

RJ: I think it’s a cathartic, original form of expression. You guys have shown your self-worth, how much you value yourselves and are teaching others to do the same. I thought it was a great idea and you both have so much have to offer.

Photo by Fola Abatan

K: Any other proud moments?

When you wrote that poem that got published when you were like eight, I couldn’t believe it. I thought this girl’s going to be an author, how do I make this happen? Lock her in the library!? *laughs*

K: *laughs* Young genius.

Photo by Fola Abatan

Edited by Komali

Photography by Fola Abatan

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